Valentines Day is around the corner and there is a lot of palpable excitement in the air. Even a usual visit to Walmart is “valentinised” with heart balloon bouquets to musical teddy bears. And what with the news of Jay Z setting the bar astronomically high by gifting 10,000 roses to Beyonce , we all expect some li’l somethings(putting it mildly 😉 ) from our husbands/boyfriends and a select few vice-versa 😛
However apart from showering each other with flowers and gifts and all those extravaganzas on special occasions how many of us actually pause and appreciate the romance on going in our daily lives? Those little things your partner does every day to show they care, and they are thinking of you. These are often ignored since, when you are engulfed by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and you somehow tend to easily overlook the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
So I have compiled a list of top 10 romantic gestures we all are guilty of taking for granted at one time or another. If your partner does any of this, understand that you are a very very lucky person. <3
All the illustrations in this page are by the Korean artist “Puuung”. Puuung’s works can be found on her grafolio.
- If your partner still dresses up for you.
Remember your first date? ^^’.When you were wondering if the pretty little black dress is perfect or overdoing it, when you were lost amongst your sea of deodorants worried if it would be overpowering for your girl, when you ACTUALLY, I mean seriously ironed a shirt for a time other than attending job interviews. For many couples that stage phases out before they themselves realize. But if you have a man or woman in your life who still remembers your favorite color and perfume and dresses up for you, they are quite romantic at heart <3
- If she laughs at your jokes. (even the really lame ones)
This one is specifically for guys. You come home with a great joke which happened at work and flourish it like Chandler Bing. 😎 But as much as you wanted to make it sound funny, you know it yourself that it did not quite make the mark. Yet you see your girl laughing her heart out instead of looking at you with a “what-in-the-name-of-heavens-was-all-that-about” expression. There you go. You have a keeper. :star: She adores you and wants to make you feel wanted and no matter what kind of stupidity you churn out she will humor you because she loves you. Truly 🙂
- If your man cooks for you.
Now I know many guys who are really awesome cooks but there are a few who needs the girl even to make some scrambled eggs !! O_o But if yours takes his time out to cook for you(even if it is occasionally) understand that he took the time to think of you, and worked on something to impress you and make you (and your stomach) happy. Whether it is something straight out of Master-Chef or just baked potatoes it takes a really thoughtful and caring man, to put in efforts and prepare your favorite meal. 🙂
P.S.- If he cleans afterwards make sure you do treasure deeeeply that gem of a man 😉
- Stops to kiss you or hug you while passing by, for no reason.
I still remember the first time my fella did this when we were in the initial totally smitten and can’t-get-enough-of-each-other phase. But 7 years later he still continues to do this and now I also do this, learning from him 🙂 Whether your partner is dusting the shelves or leaving for work or even brushing teeth, a squishy hug and a quick kiss when they least expect it always fills the other one’s heart with a warm and fuzzy feeling every single time. If you have this in your life and still crave more for the materialistic desires, you need to really take a pause and do some retrospection. 😮
- Letting them have the last bite.
Everybody wants the last potato chip even though they are polite enough to decline it. If your significant other offers you to take the last bite or lets you have their share of french fries (or in my case lets you have the cheesiest piece in the pizza) marry him/her NOW or if married make sure you never let them go. EVER 😀
On a more serious note it is indeed a small gesture, but the sacrifice shows their tremendous affection for you and just to see that extra glow in your face they are willing to give up something they have. <3
- Going to bed together.
This is a rather difficult one in this time with imminent deadlines at work or due to a love affair with one’s laptop, TV etc. However, those of you who are lucky enough to have a sweetheart who makes it a priority to tuck into bed along with you, know that you are among the fortunate few. ^^’
- Giving compliments generously.
While this is more applicable and advised in most of the relationship advices for women, guys also appreciate it(like a lot) when you remind him how much you like his smile or some of his specific traits like his patience or being funny or whatever your man is good at. If your beloved already does this, it means she really digs you 😉 Same goes without saying for a guy who makes his woman feel beautiful, even when she is in her sweats, with her hair in a ponytail and no makeup on. 🙂
- The random text in the middle of the day, just to say “I love you” or “I miss you”.
This is a tried and tested lovey-dovey gesture and chances are that we have all done this in the first few years of togetherness. But to continue this down the lane, when many other responsibilities are competing for your attention is the deal here. If you are a recipient of these sweet little love texts even after time has taken its toll , you got a great thoughtful partner there who really intends to make you happy and keep the love and romance alive in your relationship in every possible way they can. <3
- Putting your favorite things on pause so they can tell you about their day.
If he pauses in between his video games or she in between her favorite novel, just to hear you ramble about your (boring) day, what more can you ask for as a sweet and selfless gesture in your significant other ? 🙂
Cuddling is something women are a huge fan of but if your man is also a big-time cuddler, you are among the special few 🙂 It sometimes says more than words can and sometimes that is all you really need to feel better. <3
I am indeed blessed to be with a man who does all of this plus the occasional gifts as well 😉 It has been 7 years and nothing has changed and I really hope it will not :\
Let this month of love bring more love to our lives and make us realize that romance is just not about only buying, rather its more about giving.I do admit that the special extravaganzas also play their role but it is those romantic ideas which are able to feed our love daily,without even being noticed keeps the glow going in our relationships.
What are the romantic gestures outside this list which you feel adds a little more love and fun to our lives ? Your comments and feedback is welcome and appreciated 🙂